Despite our best efforts,
however, we often face conflicts and situations where we find that the
life of the Church is not compatible with the life of the workplace.
There are practical conflicts; there are temptations and the necessity
of moral behavior; and there are ethical conflicts. Each can occur on
its own or in concert with other related difficulties.
Resolving Conflicts
Some of the practical conflicts have to do with the daily cycles of
Church life: such things as fasting, prayer, and holy days. When we
strive to keep the fast, it suddenly seems as though there is a cascade
of temptations to break the fast. Office lunches, snacks and munchies,
even the rushed lunch necessitating "fast food," all seem to
have some element of meat or dairy products. When we don't partake of
the non-fasting foods, we invite questioning looks and there is the need
to explain. It seems nearly impossible to make one's co-workers
understand without somehow giving the impression of judging or
condemning. So the initial conflict is to resist temptation, however,
the underlying conflict is how to explain our behavior.
Icons in the Workplace
Those who work at desks, in offices or at a fixed workstation, often
have the opportunity to decorate their workspace with some personal
items. Pictures of family, pets, or friends are common as are calendars,
posters or other decorative pictures. It seems only natural that we as
Orthodox Christians place icons, in prominent places. However, there is
the question of what others will think, or whether we might
inadvertently offend someone else's beliefs. We can easily explain
pictures of friends and family, but it is always the icon that attracts
attention and questions.
Most employers allow a certain
number of holidays on which the business will be closed, such as Labor
Day, Independence Day, Memorial Day, Thanksgiving, (Western) Christmas,
etc. Rarely do these work holidays coincide with Orthodox holy days such
as Holy Week and Pascha, Nativity (on the Church calendar), Theophany,
Transfiguration, Dormition, etc. So we are faced with the conflict of
whether to attend the Divine services or go to work. If we attend the
Divine services, we have to forfeit some pay, arrive late, use vacation,
or pay some other price. In some jobs it is increasingly common for
there to be the expectation to work "non traditional"
schedules, which frequently include weekends. This can be quite a
conflict for the pious Orthodox Christian who makes a priority of
attendance at Divine Services.
A final practical concern is simply
that of conversation and interaction with our coworkers, clients and
customers. An obvious temptation here is to gossip. The
"grapevine" in any office is the unofficial carrier of
information. If we don't listen in on the grapevine, we may miss
important information. And yet, the vast majority of the information on
the grapevine is gossip, personal information, speculation, and
criticism of others. Where do we draw the line? We also often find
ourselves involved in discussions of current events, television
programs, sports, plays, movies and other entertainments. While these
discussions are often innocuous, they sometimes involve topics which are
opposed to our Faith. Overall one should keep in mind the words of the
Holy Apostle Paul, Whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is
just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is gracious, if
there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think on
these things (Phil. 4:8). Conversations with coworkers also may involve
religion. Heterodox Christians may well assume that they share with us a
belief system with only minor differences.
We are faced with having to decide
whether to let the false assumption rest, or whether to confront the
issue, possibly having the differences in belief become an impediment to
your working relationship. If you are able to freely discuss differences
in beliefs, just how far is it appropriate to go on "work
time." As we know, religious discussions can become quite involved,
taking up a lot of time and energy and distracting us from the task at
hand.
Fasting
In order to address these practical concerns, we have to look at our
priorities. Is the keeping of the fast important enough to go without a
meal (if there is nothing appropriate to eat)? It is increasingly common
for even worldly people to adopt a vegetarian - even vegan - diet for
any number of reasons. They have no trouble acting according to their
beliefs. How is it that we Orthodox Christians, who fast for our
spiritual health, have such difficulty with our dietary restrictions?
Some of us actually welcome such conflicts as giving us an excuse to
"cheat" on the fast in order not to "offend" someone
else or "make a show" of our fasting. It has been my
experience that once you begin keeping the fast among your co-workers,
there is really very little fuss that occurs. Some of my co-workers
actually go out of their way to make sure that at company lunches there
is some kind of fasting food that I can eat when it is, as I say, a
"vegan day." (While most people go along with such
idiosyncrasies, most do not understand, nor do they really care to, why
we fast. However, I have found that the ones who best understand are not
Christians but those who are involved in religions that actively address
the link between body and soul, i.e., "new age" pagans.)
Attending Services
On feast days, it is not always possible to attend Divine services
due to work. However, with a little planning and attention to the
calendar, often a vacation day or some "flex time" can be used
to celebrate the feast. Many parishes are open to early morning services
so that parishioners can attend the liturgy, receive the Mysteries, and
still make it to the office on time. (If it seems daunting to get up an
hour or so earlier in order to get to Liturgy, just remember that the
priest has to get there even earlier, to prepare the temple and to begin
the Proskomedia!) Sometimes, though, it is just not possible to get to
the Divine Liturgy on the day of a feast. It is important to recall that
the Vigil of the feast, served the evening before, is also part of the
celebration. In fact, many of the special events of a feast take place
at the vigil; for example, the veneration of the cross on the Feast of
the Elevation and on the Sunday of the Cross in Great Lent. On a feast
day at work, be sure to celebrate the feast as best you can. Have a
festive lunch or bring a special snack or treat to share with
co-workers. If you can play tapes or CD's, find the music for the feast
and put it on. Make the feast a special day for yourself and those
around you.
The issue of working on Saturdays
and Sundays is more complex. One solution is just to refuse any position
which requires Sunday hours. This is not always realistic; an
alternative might be to limit weekend hours to once a month or some
other schedule that permits frequent attendance at Divine Services.
Another alternative is to schedule hours on weekends around the times
when there are services, e.g., work days on Saturday and evenings on
Sunday. Admittedly, none of these solutions is optimal and they involve
some measure of compromise; ultimately, each person, in conjunction with
his spiritual father, must make the decision of what is acceptable in
his situation. Work is important as the source of our support, but far
more important are meaning and identity for Orthodox Christians come
from God.
Fr. David is rector of St
Seraphim of Sarov Orthodox Mission in Boise, Idaho, in addition to
working full-time as a mental health counselor for a local agency.